A tribute to my mom

A tribute to my mom

It’s now 2011 … another year has come and gone and still, I miss my mom πŸ™‚Β  Happy Mother’s Day to ALL Moms! I hope and trust that your children make you as proud as mine do.Β Β  A special thank you to Tina, Danial and Brenda for making me SO proud to be your Mom.Β  And thank you to my Mom for instilling great values and a BIG personality!

In Memory of Lucille Therese Cunningham Pillon – MY MOM!

This year (2010) marks my 30th Mother’s day without my mom … 30 years and I miss her as much today as I did back then.

I am very blessed … I have three grown children who are my best friends.Β  My girls and I (and sometimes my son) meet every Wednesday for lunch … (an all day affair) and I treasure every moment I have with them and with my granddaughters.

I am grateful for the opportunity to get to “know” my children.

Reflecting on today made me think of a poem my “aunt” wrote about my mom and read at her funeral back in April 1980.

I’d like to share it here today as a tribute to my mom, Lucille (Lou, Aunty Lou – never Lucy) Cunningham Pillon.Β  My mom was a great woman and I see her strong, brilliant personality in my girls and in my son, every day.


I thought of you today

Because it is your Birthday

And my thoughts went winging

Back across the years

Across the happy times

Across the tears

We haven’t always agreed

But Neither have we condemned

Or judged

We always went along with one another

I became a millionaire

The day I met you

Because the friendship you have given me

Is worth more than anything money can buy

My friend Lou


As you can see, my mom was a very special woman …. I got to know her after she left us because she touched so many lives during her very short one … she remains a prominent influence in my life on a daily basis.

I love you mom,


73 Replies to “A tribute to my mom”

  1. A very lovely poem for who was obviously a lovely, much-loved person. It’s not always about how much time you have together, but the Quality you put into it. Yours shows. Sam

  2. hey mother its now its now 14 years ago that you where going to heaven and you where only 53 years but the thime we spend together this a never forget and now that my wife we have a little baby i think more and more about you thet you never see you sons child
    mom i hope your happy in heaven and please wake over your famely here on earth
    your beloved son
    filip van de voorde

  3. Hello Janet that is a very touching poem and really hits home to how much we love our moms and children and treasure every moment. Happy Mother’s Day Donna Gain

  4. Janet thanks for shearing a beautiful poem my mother pass on some 30 years ago. Happy mothers day to you and all mothers.

  5. Mothers are to be treasured both when they are here with us and when they are grown but never forgotten someday.No one can ever take away the fond memories you have of your mother.But just enjoy your day with your family today and be happy like your mother would want you to be as I feel like she knows your are happy right now and she is pleased.

  6. Janet thank you for sharing this poem with us. I was 37 when cancer took my mom and even though it’s been 42, it’s like yesterday. We were
    best friends. I too can see many of her qualities in my children and grandchildren.


  7. HI, Janet!!!
    Dear Janet!!!
    I Congratulate on day MOM!!
    I Wish you and your fine family of health of happiness and love!!! Janet!!! At you such powerful reinforcement and support!!!! Children, grandsons and (apparently on a photo) the fine husband!!!
    Of what still to dream!!!
    Live, love and be pleased LIVES!!! Give ALL OF YOU the GOD of Health! Greetings to YOU from my family!!! RUSSIA

  8. Hope you have a nice mothers day Janet!Mom’s are forever, they leave us but their never gone. Each day i look in the mirror reminds me that mom built and mentor’d me to be the most i can be and rule life instead of life ruleing me! I am bless’d with mom of 85 years of age and still the main woman of my life.I care for her as Dad coaches me from above!You have a wonderful Mothers day to all mothers!

  9. Type your comment here.
    I loved those words, so strong and pure,not flowery, enough said so that I could picture the women she was and why you are the woman you are.

    My mother I think was like that unassuming ,strong, and a hero to many…and so full of wisdom..the words she always leaves in my mind are “I dont mind what you do or become as long as YOU are HAPPY”
    simple words but whenever I go for a promotion,job,loveinterest…whatever…those words are like a bible for me.
    of my mother such a beautiful lady,
    She sounds like a beautiful lady.


  10. I think that was a beautiful poem from your aunt that is something i would treasure always i am going to keep this poem for my mother who is in heaven since i was 21/2 thank you for sending it to me. I will treasure always

  11. Janet; thank you for sharing & allowing me to reflect too…..as it has been said,time rolls on but memories last..love’s remembrance outlasts all.Janet, may nothing but happiness come through your door!Cheers!

  12. Janet I see where your Mom played a great part of your life. We were blessed with a mother that gave more than she ever wanted in retun. She would give and never want in return.
    Sounds like your Mom was the same. My Mother rasied 6 children and 5 were by herself. She lived to be 88 years young. She always will be part of my life too.

  13. Janet, thanks for the lovely poem to your mom on this special Day. I lost my mom back in 2002 and it still hurts on days like today. We really miss her but know she is watching over us. I wish you and your family the best and Thanks again.

  14. Janet, Thank you for sharing a little of the ‘wealth’ that was knowing your Mother with us.

    I lost my Mother-in-Law in 1988 and my Mother in 2000. I loved and treasured them and I miss them both very much.

    I now have a step-Mother-in-Law whom I try to let know how much I cherish her and how much her being in my live means to me.

  15. Hi, Janet,

    That is a wonderfully written poem.

    Sorry about your mother passing away at a young age; it is a great pity that she did not live up to becoming a pensioner.

    But, in a sense, you have been showered with the blessings of the great gift (of love) that your dear children and grand children can give you to make up for your harsh loss of your beloved mother.

    I was fortunate enough that my mother lived long enough and passed away (after suffering from pancreatic cancer) to the astral world at the age of 74 in September 2005.

    And I am still trying to adjust to life without her fours years after… So, I do understand what you went through.

    May the love of your beloved and cherished ones enhance the longevity of your life on Mother’s day.

    May the Heavenly Lord shed grace and blessings on your home.


  16. Yes Janet, mothers are special.
    And we should really feel that Mother’s Day is Every day.
    thank you for sharing.

  17. Thank you Janet; What a lovely tribut to your Mom. I am 73 years old and had the wonderful privalge to have my Mom for 72 of those years. This is My first Mothers day without her and I feel like a little kid today with out her. I even have a greatgrandson but you always have that wonderful connection to your own Mom. Thanks again, Patricia A

  18. Type your comment here.
    Hi Janet, Happy Mothers Day! May you live to see many many more. I’m sorry that you lost your mom so early in your life when you really needed her there for you. But you seem to have done well for yourself. You are a caring and giving
    person, always encouraging your patrons to seek a better life. I wish that I had taken your advice earlier when we met. Perhaps I would be in a better position now.Be that as it may, what’s done is done. I’m trying to get a handle on it, though.

    Again, Happy Mothers’ Day, and thanks for the poem!


  19. Dear Janet,
    My heart goes out to you on Mother’s Day.
    My Mother is no longer with us either and I know how you feel. She passed away at the age of 53 in Christmas of 1984.
    This has been a very hard day for me because my daughter passed away also in March of 2008. Now my mother and my daughter are together in heaven and they also touched many lives. I miss them so much and they are forever in my heart.
    May God Bless you, Janet.
    Marilyn Danieluk
    Member of Earth Friendly Biz

  20. Janet,
    Thank you very much for sharing this poem with us. I am sure your Mother would be proud of you for what you have accomplished and for how well you are doing with your own family. I can not say that I know how you feel in not having your mother around now but I know how I would feel if I ever lost my mother. Like most Mothers and daughters, we have not always got along. We are just getting back into getting to know one another as Adults after I left home. I thank God everyday that my Mother kept me instead of giving me up for adoption. I appreciate everything my mother has taught me through my growing up that I am passing some not all to my daughter.

    Thank you again,

  21. Dear Janet,
    Your Mother must have been a very special person, because you are one to.
    Special people are always missed because they have a special gift. They touch people in such a way that will always be there, no one can ever take away that memory .
    Peter Donelan.

  22. Hi Janet

    Thanks for sharing your poem, that is really nice. Hope you had a lovely day with your children IΒ΄m sure they think just as much of you as you do of your Mom. My Mom also died young, now 47 years ago but I still see her just as yesterday. Bless our Mums

  23. This is a very sweet poem. I know what you mean about missing your Mom. My Mom passed away 5 years ago and I still miss her. It drives me crazy sometimes wanting to call her and cant and always went out and ate with her. One restarant I cant sit in the booth because that was were we ate on her last Birthday before she passed away. Hope you had a wonderful Mothers Day anyway.

    Thanks for sharing your Poem and thoughts.
    God Bless you

  24. Janet, thanks for sharing about your mom. Apparently Eileen knew your mom to be a wonderful person in good times and in bad times. I believe they shared the kind of friendship that each of us needs today. This life we are living is the real deal; not a practice round. And life will reward us in proportion to the amount of help we are to other people. When we invest ourselves in the lives of others, it will become apparent to us that we have all we need as well. Your mom understood this and as a result, Eileen could write that your mom’s friendship was worth far more than money. God bless you for keeping your mom’s memory alive.


  25. I lost my mom in 1996. She was smart brave and a wonderful person. The rock of our family. I miss our late night talks. She had a spirituality about her. A belief in all things positive. An inner calm.You our missed so much. You beloved son Bill

  26. Yes Moms are special. It is hard to believe that mine passed away 35 years ago. It is amazing how I can still miss her. My wife is an amazing mom to three grown boys, and now is enjoying being Grand Mom to two Grandsons…life goes on.

    thanks for sharing…blessings to all


  27. Thank You Janet for sharing that very touching poem from your aunt. I lost my mom in 1993 at 90 yrs. and still miss her daily.
    wishing you the best Mothers day.


  28. Janet,
    So nice of you to remember your Mother this way. My mother passed on New Years day in 2008, so the loss is still strong this Mothers Day. For me having never had a father, it is so disconcerting to realize that the one person who was always there is gone. But like you I remember her and I love her, and I am grateful to GOD to have had her for so long.

    Happy Mother’s Day Janet!

    Tim Foulke

  29. Goodmorning Janet,
    It is so nice to hear people say such inspiring words about their mothers. I remember many things about my mom. She had a hard life raising the 4 of us after my dad died. She worked hard and did not ask anything in return. Although it’s been 19 years since she left us, she is still missed every day.
    Have a wonderful day today and every day.

  30. Janet very beautiful poem, Happy Mothers Day!
    I am unable to spend mothers day with all of my grown children today, but we will be getting together soon.

    God Bless,


  31. Hello Janet.
    Thanks for sharing this poem with us, it is touching so beautiful. This year it’s been nine year that my mom is no longer with our family. I do miss all the little things and all the great moments we had together … I remember the smell of brewing coffee in the morning and when she was in the kitchen doing breakfast and how she stood in front of our home holding our little dog in her arms while I made my way to the corner to go to school every morning.

    Enjoy your time with your kids and have a GREAT mother’s day! God bless.


  32. Hi Janet,
    Thank you for posting this poem. Our moms are most precious and we should share moments with them that enhances their lives and leave a wonderful memory for them and us. My mom means so much to me, even as a grown man it just thrills me to just talk to her on the phone.Moms are the best!! Have a Happy Mother’s Day Janet!

  33. Hi Janete,

    Beautiful poem and thank you shared with us .
    Sorry about your mother passing away so young , but now, in heaven, watches over you with love and keeps you out of trouble .
    After reading all the comments on this page, I realized how lucky and blessed I am because my mother is alive and is with me every day.
    She has 80 years old and is a wonderful woman ,strong and full of wisdom .I cherish every moment spent together ,I love and respect her very much .What can I say, I cried reading all these moving messages and I thank God that I have my mother beside me every day.

    Happy Mothers’ Day, and thanks for the poem!


  34. Hello Janet,
    Thank you so much for the Poem. It is Beautiful and describes all Mothers. in one way or another.
    This is my 45th. Mothers Day without my Wonderful Mother who Passed Away much too young. Everyone that knew her Loved her. She helped me Raise my 4 Sons. Someone told her one time that she had a Heart as big as the Moon. She jokingly replied Some Day my Bihhhg Heart will Kill me and Laughed. Little did she know at that time that it would indeed Kill her. She had an Enlarged Heart that was six times as big as it should have been and at the Young Age of 51 her Heart Burst from being so Large, and it Killed her.
    Not a Day goes by that I don’t think of her and all she did for me and my Sons. I will never stop thinking of Her.
    Thanks again Janet for the Beautiful Poem,

  35. Hope your Mother’s Day was a beautiful day. Sounds like you were going to have a good time with your Family. Just know your Mom was there enjoying it also.

    That was a beautiful poem. It’s nice to know someone cared for your Mom to take the time to write the poem and you to save and share with your community.

    Happy Mothers Day

  36. Thanks for sharing the poem and I do hope you had a wonderful day with your children and grandchildren.
    It has been eighteen years since my mom departed unexpectedly (approaching retirement at the age of 59) and never saw the day. It still seems like yesterday. I have a new attitude about life from that experience and I am ever grateful that I shared a very close relationship with my mom.

  37. Hello Janet,

    That is a very beautiful poem, I still have my Mom. I don’t get to spend as much time with her as I would like. I do see her usually twice a week, she will be 64 this month. Mom still works full time and the earliest she will be able to retire is 66. I do not think she will be able to much more than survive on her retirement. I intend to have things so that I can help her out financially. I do not want her to have to go back to work after she retires.
    Thank You for sharing this poem.

  38. Thanks for sharing Janet. I still have my mom.She’s 82, and I feel so blessed and treasure every moment. Hope you had a wonderful day with your children and grandchldren

  39. Janet –

    This is a very beautiful tribute and now it is immortalized on the web.. her for every as much as I can tell – how fitting.

    The poem is beautiful and I can now better understand why you have an extra measure of JOY in your voice on Wednesday mornings when we chat… very special and eternal bond.

    You are blessed because you in part are her legacy.


  40. Hi Janet,

    Beautiful Poem… My mother is half way around the world and even though I
    cannot see her, she is right next to me in my heart each and every day
    with everything I do..
    My kids are still young, but they greeted me with Cards, flowers and freshly
    brewed coffee this morning. It is truly amazing how the little things they do
    can put the biggest smiles on our faces.

    I wrote a piece on my blog about mother’s too.

    Happy Mother’s Day Janet and ALL mom’s out there,

  41. Hi Janet, this is kind of long but I hope you don’t mind me sharing this with everyone as it was sent to me around Mother’s Day last year.
    Wishing all of the Mother’s a very Happy Mother’s Day!
    And for you guys and those that are not Mother’s please
    remember how special they are!
    I love you Mom!

    One Flaw In Women

    Women have strengths that amaze men…..

    They bear hardships and they carry burdens,

    but they hold happiness, love and joy.

    They smile when they want to scream.

    They sing when they want to cry.

    They cry when they are happy

    and laugh when they are nervous.

    They fight for what they believe in..

    They stand up to injustice.

    They don’t take “no” for an answer

    when they believe there is a better solution.

    They go without so their family can have.

    They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

    They love unconditionally.

    They cry when their children excel

    and cheer when their friends get awards.

    They are happy when they hear about

    a birth or a wedding.

    Their hearts break when a friend dies.

    They grieve at the loss of a family member,

    yet they are strong when they

    think there is no strength left.

    They know that a hug and a kiss

    can heal a broken heart.

    Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

    They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you

    to show how much they care about you.

    The heart of a woman is what

    makes the world keep turning.

    They bring joy, hope and love.

    They have compassion and ideas.

    They give moral support to their

    family and friends.

    Women have vital things to say

    and everything to give.

    Please pass this along to all your women friends and relatives

    Believe you are worthy, because you have made
    it this far along life’s journey!
    Blessings to all!

    Happy Mother’s Day!


  42. That is a wonderful tribute to your mom. I love my mom very much and am going to spend the whole day with her. I have not written a nice tribute such as this but I am making her favorite meal, my spaghetti sauce. I don’t make it too often because it takes 12 hours to make. Your mother sounds like she was a wonderful lady. You are a wonderful mother as well to be able to give your children the time you give them each week. Happy Mother’s Day.


  43. Hi Janet, happy mothers day to you too. By the way I know precisely what you mean, you see i also lost my mom 3 years ago, and I miss her so very much, because I have not been living near to her for more than 20 years. She was living in Australia, and I was living in Curacao. She died three years ago in Australia, and I was there. I see her personality in my siblings and my children and also my grandchildren. She was a lovely woman, with a very strong personality and also a warrior.

  44. Janet,
    Happy Mothers Day. It is heart warming to here how people feel and remember their Mother. Your poem is a great way to keep her memory a live. We all have one thing in common and that is our Mothers. We grow and an bond inside them and then they help us grow and bond out side of them with Life. God gives us our Moms and they give us life and both are the most valued and priceless things in the world. Boy do I love my MOM and am Blessed to still have her at 64yrs young. This Is THE GREATEST DAY of the YEAR.
    Thank You For sharing. TONY

  45. Janet that was very sweet. I am grateful to have my mom still and I do cherish the times i have with her. she stood by me through my heart attack and multiple eye surgeries.
    Just remember they are always in our hearts!
    Thanks Mike

  46. Janet, what a wonderful tribute with tons of love for your Mom.
    Thank goodness I still have my Mom, I lost my Dad 2 Januarys ago, and the loss and pain is still tough to handle. I miss him so very, very much.

    Mom has been my support and a constant reminder of just how much parents do for us… always… no matter what age we “kids” are, they are always there to love, support and help bounce back when we stumble.

    I’m giving my Mom a late Mother’s day present by flying back to Saskatchewan (I’m in Vancouver, BC) to help her get things ready for the late spring that they are having. It will be wonderful to spend some quality time with her.

    Thanks for sharing…

  47. You are one classy lady, you know that?

    I loved this when you posted it last year, and it’s wonderful again. As you know, my mom is now 85 years young … and I am so blessed to be able to spend this day with her. Thanks for the gentle reminder not to become complacent and take her for granted.

    Happy Mother’s day to you and all other mothers everywhere.

  48. Janet,

    What an awesome way to remember your mother. She would be so proud of you. Take care and have a great Mother’s Day. Your mother is with you!!

  49. Happy Mothers Day Janet and to all the mothers of the world.
    My mother Lucille M. Perkins lost her battle with Leaukemia on Dec. 06, 2010.
    How a mother wants only the best for child, I wanted the same for my mother. My mother was my best friend, I was not able to see her in her last days but did speak to her on the phone. Next weekend we are holding a memorial for her. For those who were not able to pay their last respects. It will give some closure to some of us especially me. She was my light in times of darkness. My hope, my beloved mother whom I will miss and love until I exist no more. Happy Mothers Day Luclle M. Perkins, my mother. Rest in Peace.

  50. I just want to say thank you to EVERYONE for your stories of love … I am feeling truly loved today – my kids all went out of the way to make sure of it and we had a GREAT time … off for more Mother’s Day celebrations for dinner. What an amazing day. I look forward to reading more of your stories!

  51. Thanks Fern, the poem is a gentle reminder of the kind of woman my Mom really was.

  52. Wow, Connie what a wonderful way to start your day. Kids are what make Mother’s Day so special and it sounds like you had a wonderful day with yours. I loved the poem on your site… Before I was a mom … πŸ™‚ Great tribute

  53. I love that you cooked your Mom her favourite dish and are spending the day with her. Quality time is so precious.

  54. Oh Sumaya, that must have been so hard. I also lived away from my Mom when she died. 3,000 Miles away … it was horrific and I too see my Mom in my kids and my grandkids. It’s what makes us live forever!

  55. You are indeed blessed and I’m glad to hear you spend time with your Mom. It’s important

  56. Thanks Nathalie – I hope you are having a phenomenal day and get the grande treatment as you so richly deserve as well πŸ™‚ This has been an amazing day so far!

  57. You are indeed blessed, Daryl and how nice of you to go and help out your Mom .. what a good son!!! πŸ™‚ Enjoy the quality time – it’s precious

  58. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Gladys … it is never easy and this being your first Mother’s Day without your Mom must be hard. My heart goes out to you … the memorial will be a great tribute! Rest in Peace Lucilles πŸ™‚

  59. Hi Janet, I’d like to wish you and all mothers a HAPPY MOTHER”S DAY. I lost my mother in 2004 and I still miss her everyday. She was the matriarch of the family,very head strong but still could be witty when you least expected it. She instilled alot in me that I realise daily and still wish I could just ask something but I’m lucky to have had her for 61 years of my life. I still have a wonderful mother-in-law who I love as a mother too. I love you mother, Nina Lillyan McWhorter, just as much now as before and I’ll carry it to my grave so when we meet on that road of gold it will continue to flourish.

  60. Hi Janet,
    You brought up something special, a reminder of 54 yrs Its been since my mom died,
    I haven’t gotten over It yet. I struggled through my entire life with out her, I’ve thought about
    her every single day, and I feel my life would have been much better with her love, while
    growing up.
    I know how you feel Janet, and hope you have learned, over the years, to fill your
    void with positive thoughts, I never learned how.
    God Bless
    Dean Hamblin

  61. Happy Mothersday Janette, and all the Mothers in the World!!

    Thank You so much Janette for sharing this Beautiful Poem!
    My Mum left us already 9 years ago, and I still have the feeling , as it was only Yesterday! Mothers are something so special in this world, I received a wonderful Story yesterday, for Mothers Day, which I would like to share with You, because that is what All Mums are:
    [7/05/2011 3:52:20 PM] Mary Sablovs: TO ALL MOTHERS OUT THERE & THEIR CHILDREN ((h))

    Why are you crying, a young boy asked his Mom?

    “Because I’m a woman,” she told him.

    “I don’t understand,” he said.

    His Mom just hugged him and said,
    “And you never will, but that’s O.K.”…….

    Later the little boy asked his father,
    “Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?”.
    “All women cry for no reason,” was all his Dad could say……

    The little boy grew up and became a man,
    still wondering why women cry.

    Finally he put in a call to God and when God got back to him, he asked “God, why do women cry so easily?”

    GOD answered……

    “When I made woman,
    I decided she had to be special.
    I made her shoulders
    strong enough to carry
    the weight of the world, yet,
    made her arms gentle enough to give comfort…

    I gave her the inner strength
    to endure childbirth
    and the rejection
    that many times will come
    even from her own children.

    I gave her a hardness
    that allows her
    to keep going and take care
    of her family and friends,
    even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue without

    I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all
    circumstances. Even when her child has hurt her badly….

    She has the very special power to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and
    to quell a teenager’s anxieties and fears….

    I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults
    and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart….

    I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but
    sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him

    For all of this hard work,
    I also gave her a tear to shed.
    It is hers to use
    whenever needed and !
    it is her only weakness….
    When you see her cry,
    tell her how much you love her, and all she does for everyone, and even though
    she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good.

    She is special!
    Please send this to women you know, and those with mothers,
    sisters, and special women in their lives.

    But, also send this to men so they will understand about what a
    wonderful thing a woman is.
    Each day is a mountain that must be climbed; with courage each step
    gets easier.

    Love your Mother Always

    and keep her Smiling πŸ™‚

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